Like your children, each of my girls has various strengths. When I see one of their strengths shining through, I always remind them to use their powers for good and not evil.  As a woman, you are an amazingly powerful creature! When it comes to others, especially your offspring, you can demonstrate unimaginable strength. You show strength in how you uplift, care for and love others. Yet, when it comes to yourself you don’t use your amazing powers for good. Instead, you take the passion from your strength and channel into causing severe damage to yourself.

I believe as a woman you were created to serve others. That’s why it feels like second nature and you find joy in helping someone.

I can’t help to think that subconsciously you may be jumping to help others because it helps you drown out your own problems.

Have you ever asked yourself, Why can I do XYZ for everyone else, but I can’t do it for me?

You aren’t putting the value on yourself that you deserve.

You have the amazing power to uplift, care for, and love, but you must use your gift for yourself first. Once applied properly you will magnify its effect to extend to everyone around you. Then and only then will your powers be used to their full potential.

With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility- Benjamin Parker

I want to help you stop creating roadblocks for yourself, and help you reach your full potential. If you’re still reading this, you’re ready to learn how to clear the path to reach your goals.

Here are the 5 things that are stopping you.


When standing in line at the store and the person in front of you starts counting pennies, what pops into your mind?  When someone compliments you, do you appreciate and accept it? What are your thoughts when you see that “perfect” looking mom on IG? When going into an unknown situation where does your mind go? Do you lean more towards all the things that could go wrong or all the awesome things that could happen? When your kids have ignored you for the 50 billionth time, what are your thoughts?

I believe because of sin we gravitate towards negativity.  The hard work comes in when you decide to stay out of that realm and focus on the positive. The trick is to focus on the good in everything, not just in certain circumstances. 

I’m not saying that you have to be over the moon about everything, especially those things out of your control.  However, you can shift your mindset and choose the direction of your thoughts.  This is a mental exercise, and just like physical exercise, you become stronger with each workout. Practice daily. 



“I’ll probably screw this up”, “Who am I kidding I can’t do that”, “No one would care what I have to say”, “I’m not that special”.

Can you relate to any of this statements? I know I’ve said a couple of them, one time too many. You have to stop being your own worst enemy! You have to believe in yourself, and trust everyone else will follow.

This won’t happen overnight, but if you’re aware of what you say you can alter your words. It’s just changing your perspective and believing in yourself. Your words will then change too, “I’ve never done this before, but I’ll give it my best”, “I can do anything I put my mind too” “I’m pretty good at XYZ, maybe I can help someone be good at it too!”

?Making Excuses

Stop using your job, family, lack of time, limited resources, or lack of creativity as excuses! I know you have so many things on your plate and you could pull any them out as a valid excuse. Great! You have an excuse, but where does it get you? Are you happy? Are you closer to your goals?

I bet the answer is “No”.

Clearly, having valid excuses is getting you nowhere, so something has to change. As a single mom, I have been able to accomplish some amazing things, but only when I stopped allowing my excuses to define my life. Stop validating your excuses, they are preventing you from living the life you want.  


Stop doing everything else, except for what you are supposed to be doing.  You know what I’m talking about, the dishes, the laundry, getting lost in your timeline, moving your room furniture around. You have a goal! You made a commitment to yourself. You need to get rid of your distractions and schedule time dedicated to working towards your goal. If you haven’t already you need to remove things in your life that aren’t pushing you towards your goal.

?Not Making a Plan

If you go college you meet with an advisor to map out the road to graduation. If you’re having a baby, you map out various plans to get you to the hospital when you go in labor. Those are big events, but so are your personal goals. Your goals are determining the type of life you will live. They are setting the course for how much comfort/convenience you will experience in life. So why don’t you have a plan for something that has so much control over how you will live your life?

It’s probably because, you’ve struggled with self-doubt, making excuses, avoidance, and not understanding the value that should be placed on attaining your personal goals.


I want to know…

Has one of these roadblocks been stopping you?


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Bianca Landis is the owner of Not A Basic Mom. She helps bloggers and online entrepreneurs how to setup Wordpress blogs while teaching bloggers and business owners to use social media to market their business. Her teaching style is simple, actionable and attainable. She has a deep love for teaching and helping others reach their goals.

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